As you know, I go to school. Therefore, twice a week my mom watches my son. When I got home last night, I heard him yapping away but I didn't hear my mom respond. When I finally went to her room, she was barely awake and my son was just talking and talking and talking. As soon as he saw me, he jumped up and hugged me. Then he started telling me a story about something that happened a week ago. All of a sudden, his voice got really loud and he was pointing his finger to me. My mom and I looked at eachother. Clearly someone had been yelling at my kid and he was mimicking that person. I asked him who talks to him like that and he responded "Mommy and Daddy". Clearly this isn't true because he hasn't seen his "daddy" in two years. So I asked him again and he said the same thing. I was left puzzled at where this daddy business came from.
Then he proceeded to me tell me that he wanted to get on a plane like grandma and papa and that he was going to the airport. He then said "Daddy is on the plane". You see, whenever he ask for him, I always tell him he's on a plane but the last time we had that conversations was months ago. He then proceeded to have a conversation regarding his daddy.
My mom and I came up with the conclusion that he must be learning this at school. However, I'm now left with the reality that the questions will begin soon. Where is daddy? Why is he not here? How come I don't see daddy?
What's the right thing to say? Clearly I can't keep telling him his daddy is on a plane for the rest of his life. Despite my personal opinion of his father, I've never spoken negative towards him to my son. In fact, I often show him pictures or tell him fun stories about his daddy. However, he's growing up and starting to understand the dynamics which make up a family.
While I know that as he gets older, he will see things for himself. However, what does one do in the interim when he is too young to really get it but too old to pacify with vague answers?
Then he proceeded to me tell me that he wanted to get on a plane like grandma and papa and that he was going to the airport. He then said "Daddy is on the plane". You see, whenever he ask for him, I always tell him he's on a plane but the last time we had that conversations was months ago. He then proceeded to have a conversation regarding his daddy.
My mom and I came up with the conclusion that he must be learning this at school. However, I'm now left with the reality that the questions will begin soon. Where is daddy? Why is he not here? How come I don't see daddy?
What's the right thing to say? Clearly I can't keep telling him his daddy is on a plane for the rest of his life. Despite my personal opinion of his father, I've never spoken negative towards him to my son. In fact, I often show him pictures or tell him fun stories about his daddy. However, he's growing up and starting to understand the dynamics which make up a family.
While I know that as he gets older, he will see things for himself. However, what does one do in the interim when he is too young to really get it but too old to pacify with vague answers?
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